Wednesday, June 2

Let Me Generalize

Sometimes I wish I was straight... because girls like me more than boys.

I seek your indulgence. Let me generalize.

Boys like the tough bad boys. They like them rough and hard. Girls, meanwhile, like the nerdy soft-spoken kid. They like the goody-two-shoes nice guy. And don't even get me started with ladies 30 years and older. Seems that my market really is moms and their ilk.

Back in college, one of my classmates showed her Chinese mom my picture and when she told her mom that I was kinda treading the he/she divide, all her mom could say was, "Sayang naman." And then there's this one time when we had our org's Christmas party in one of our member's house somewhere along EDSA, she went to the kitchen to check on some of the food and when she came back she had a grin on her face. With a slight chuckle, she reported to everyone that her mom told her that her friends from school were kinda gwapo, especially the one with glasses. "Um, ok." That was all I was able to say. And then just recently, when I had a sleepover with college blockmates, our host's older sister who already had a family of her own, apparently told him a familiar line: "Gwapo pala mga kaklase mo eh," to which my girl classmate quickly replied, "Ate, iyong isa po dun hindi papayag na gwapo siya; maganda po!"

Seriously, I need to re-assess my options and how I position myself. The product is more "sellable" to the she-side of the market. A re-branding might be in order.

On a different note, I'm kinda tired of being a push-over. I keep on telling myself that petty things affect petty minds but then people don't seem to get that idea. They often pay attention to those who make a whole lot of noise. But then empty drums bang the loudest. So I guess another re-branding is in order. Machiavelli says it's better to be feared than to be loved. Times like this, I feel that for me to get what I want, for me to have things my way, I need to act a little tougher. I'm kinda tired of thinking that, hey maybe she's got things bothering her today that's why she's abrasive, I'll take the high road and take on the flak. But then nice guys finish last. I'm tired of finishing last.

28 comments:

  1. dapat ang title nito eh "PECHAY" .lol

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  2. "know your customer" pala ang post na itoh. nakakatuwa.

    good gurls finish first. LOL :)

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  3. i have always thought that I am just a loud person. now, i realize why i'm noisy.

    this is very enlightening. pero, di bale, maganda naman ako! charing!

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  4. Know this.

    That there are guys who like the dorky, and the nerdy, and the geeky, and the socially awkward. That there are guys out there would actually find you handsome and endearing, not despite, but because of your quirks. That some guys believe being soft-spoken is a sign of strength.

    So what if good guys finish last? Because when they do, they will last.

    I should know. I'm one of those sort.

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  5. @jepoy: very marian rivera naman iyon, pechay.

    mas gusto ko suggestion ni nimmy: "know your customer!" bagong motto: good girls finish first! lol

    @boying: i love! and yep, maganda naman so ok lang! hahaha

    @red: good for you! :) pero the generalizations and the finishing last are two different topics ha. lol

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  6. you're the guy we'd all love to bring home to mommy! :)

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  7. ayiii, never thought of it that way. lol :p

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  8. asus! kinilig ka naman sa comment ni aris ;))

    pero, i'm sure you have your market :) you're a great catch darc. so, don't fret. ;)

    no need to re-brand yourself hehehe

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  9. ayii, mas kinilig ako sa great catch. hahaha. i will re-brand pa rin para iba na iyong ma-meet mo next week. lol

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  10. hahaha. i feel the same way kuya. kaya after grad. magpapakabad boy na ko. hahaha! =)

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  11. o darling, i totally feel for you. but don't fret. we have a market. :) maybe you just have to meet someone whos dying to drop his undies for nerdy cutie goody-two-shoes nice guys like you. i met one, :) see. there's hope. haha

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  12. il link you. :) link me too :)

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  13. lol @ dying to drop his undies. hahaha

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  14. It's hard to change urself but it'ts possible. For as long as you are being liked then your all good : )
    Bossy people don't have much friends.

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  15. yey, bossy people don't have much friends! lol

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  16. hahaha go and be tougher from now on!and finish first this time nyaha

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  17. yep mac, finish first. hahahaha

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  18. yo bro! nice guys have a big slice of the market too, doncha worry too much.

    I'm happy to be a faerie. I'm finding boys like me better haha

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  19. i'm all for the rebranding. i just how you don't lose the thing that makes you you. it's your best asset. :D

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  20. oo naman. you don't wanna be one of those empty shell people*, right?

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  21. just going through the motions of living? :)

    -darc

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  22. exactly. i think if u end up like one of those people who give up enough of themselves to get something, it becomes an inevitability.

    wv: fartu (hahaha)

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  23. i think i kinda reached that point before. although a friend told me, once you've emptied yourself up, then there's nothing else to do but refill. and then we're given that opportunity to refill ourselves with happier memories :)

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  24. you're lucky in that case. some people never make it out of that funk alive. haha

    whurrabout ginagawang chatroom ang comments page mo? sorry naman.

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  25. ahaha, ok lang nyl noh! :)

    emman: hindi ko rin alam. hahaha

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