Friday, November 13

Bloggers are Difficult to Love

It's inevitable that in every relationship, each party has to bear something in the other. Whether it be a previously undisclosed habit, the animosity of some of his friends or his way of thinking slowly unravelled as each day passes, there will be things that you'd have to make peace with in order to keep the relationship.

But what makes bloggers a class of its own? What makes them particularly difficult to love?

1. Bloggers are schizophrenic. One day he's preppy Mr. Nice Guy, the next he's Rebel-Without-A-Cause. And this penchant to assume alter-egos is an inherent need. Blame it on his otherwise colorful personality or the host of adventures and misadventures he gets himself into, when you love a blogger, you have to love the sum of his parts. It's the classic artist's syndrome: bordering on the mentally deranged because there, he finds inspiration. My unfortunate past lends some truth to this. Turns out his younger brother has been on meds for schizophrenia. I guess it runs in the family.

2. Bloggers are high maintenance. They have a thirst for new people, new things, new ideas. If you don't sustain the novelty, he'd most probably get bored... he'll run out of things to write! And you shouldn't take it against him. Writing is part and parcel of the person you fell in love with. The least you can do is to find ways to feed his hunger for "learning." His inner diva screams Madonna: reinvent or be irrelevant.

3. Bloggers are difficult to read. Chances are you'll get to learn things about your relationship only through his blog. How he really feels and how he processed those feelings are at times only expressed in his writing. Forget your argument last night. Wait for his blog this morning!

4. Bloggers have a following. It's like marrying a celebrity. Worse, if you fail to follow his posts, there might be cases when total strangers would know more about what you "did" than what you actually paid attention to. Goodbye privacy to intimate moments. Say hello to third-party interpretations... often at the comments section.

5. And following the previous posts, bloggers are difficult to love because when you break up with them, you will be the bad guy. You are the cause of his emo posts. You are the culprit who broke his heart. And even if he tried his awesome best to be fair as he wrote how you told him things are no longer working out, you'd still end up as the "evil" one who failed to appreciate him and all the love he has to offer. A quick look at the comments section illustrates the point.

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Yet all the same, you keep on falling in love with a blogger. And the giddy feeling you get when he writes an ode to your love is worth all the wait, the mind games, and confusion.

22 comments:

  1. I found myself laughing while reading this post. Great work! Everything makes perfect sense.

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  2. This blog should be officially renamed the Darc-Tristan Conversations. Hehe. =)

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  3. Sali ba ulit ako, just to keep you going? Hahaha.
    Not to creep you out, pero it'll be weird on my part to get involved with your thoughts this way given that I can just pick up my phone and call you... XP

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  4. Aw... fuck... I can't delete my comment... errrr... hahaha. Did I just give you a reason to stop blogging? hahaha. Oh, well... Still, I hope you'll continue to blog DarC. I think doing so will be good for you...

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  5. And I swear, hindi ako yung stalker who was matchmaking sa block niyo.

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  6. ayos sa 3-part comment ha. please do call me. this is kinda freakin' me out in a funny way. sabi ko na hindi slip iyon when you called me Dar in the previous entries. hehe

    - DD

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  7. hehe ako actually nag introduce sa naging partner ko sa blogging

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  8. i say ouch, but not all bloggers are like that. =)

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  9. that is the reason why i write one liner posts...

    -geek

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  10. which is prolly why i think it's better to leave off most details about the relationship from the blog entries. A person will always have interesting experiences or twisted, amusing rants about everything else anyway. Reletionships don't oxidize well; can't air them out too much. My ex-bf was a blogger whose entries were almost entirely about our relationship and it was tough like what your entry says. I agree bro!

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  11. haha ngayon ko lang to nabasa. everything hits home. lalo na yung last number.

    countless times, i've told myself never with a blogger. sana this time matuloy ko na. haha

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  12. My ex is a blogger. And I experienced number 4 when we broke up. That's partly why I started blogging: to tell my side.

    Of course, the other part is to stalk Darc. =)

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  13. oh, so who is this ex? intriguing...

    and lol @ stalking me. haha

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  14. He's a pretty low-profile blogger with only a handful of followers. The problem is many of those followers are IRL friends.

    And I'm dead serious about stalking you. Don't make the mistake of posting your number here even for just a minute. I will call. =P

    Lol that sounded more like a plea than a warning.

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  15. what's IRL? sorry. hehe

    and about my number, i think i've already posted it here somewhere. lol

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  16. really? wow, i can't believe i missed it. gah, i'm an incompetent stalker. lol. i'll be looking for it tonight.

    and IRL = in real life

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  17. oh now i know what irl means.

    and g'luck on the stalking. hehe

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  18. Hindi mo pa ako nakikilala. Pag ako ang iyong minahal, nanaisin mong lahat na lang ng lalaki ay blogger.

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  19. Pero sa huli'y napagpasyahan mo pa ring magmahal ng blogger.

    E ano pa palang pinagsasasabi ko rito? Hahaha...

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  20. weh? hindi nga? :P

    ang-fun: "gugol" lol

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